Recently Overheard, April 26, 2015

I love to laugh!
Laughing is my favorite!

My kids do a great job of cracking’ me up.
And if you’d been around our house recently you
may have overheard the following:
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“Whoever invented pizza needs a hug!”

“Mom I like it when your hair has the gray showing.
It just proves that you can look young and still be old;
it lets the beauty out, and the cuteness. Because old people are cute.”

“Mom can we please please have lunch?? I’m so hungry that
I feel like my stomach is punching me from the inside!”

“Nutty Bars are just over weight Kit Kats!”

“My teacher has one of those old fashion projector
things w/the clear paper on it that shines in the wall.”

“I only want two or three kids when I grow up. Probably only 2 cuz
if they’re like I was when I was little I’ll only be able to handle two!”

“I don’t like waitresses because they are not supposed to do
that kind of work. It’s for gentleman.
They’re clearing off the tables, but Boys are supposed
to clear the table.”
(my heart melted!)

“What do you call a shoe that won’t stay tied? A shoeNanigan”

“What if Google goes off the internet like Groove Shark did?
The world would end!”

“Did you see those hot dog plants growing by our pond?”
(Cat tails)

“After watching a science Video about earth-
Earth is not home to everyone. Our home is heaven and
we’re just visiting earth.”

“Look at the announcer in this sports show-
he looks like a picnic blanket threw up on his shirt.”

“Mom, you’re nice and you’re full of hospitality!”

“I’m the Easter Chicken”
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What have you heard recently at your house?

Pride Makes a Great Ear Plug

We know the scripture…
When pride comes, then comes disgrace.”

But remember the second part?
But with humility comes wisdom.” (Proverbs 11:2)

The problem is that you cannot have both at the same time.
If we want to have wisdom we have to repent of pride.
If we want to hear God’s voice we have to stop listening to
the “what if’s” in our own heads!

Pride makes a horribly effective ear plug that keeps us
from truly knowing what God is whispering in our hearts,
because our heads are busy playing out all the possible
scenerios of peoples’ reactions to us… and how everything
we affect us!
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Pull out the earplugs of pride.
Repent.
Obey… it’s brings such joy!
Be free from what other people think.
We don’t have to stand before them someday and
give an account of our decisions.
We’ll stand in front JESUS!
And I certainly would NOT want to see His face as
He speaks to me and then have to say, “Huh?”

Simultaneously Sad AND Happy

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I’m not Whacked out.
Sad AND Happy live side-by-side in me.
It’s sound like a bit of a “condition,
but quite honestly,
this combo of emotions screams,
“Healthy!”

Here’s why…

God has directed my husband to transition from the role
as founding/lead pastor of Courage Church to
joining the team of Mount Hope Church in Lansing , Michigan
full-time. ( More details are here)
To say that my emotions are zipping around from one
extreme to the other is stating it rather lightly.

Feeling sad & nostalgic …
– Over 10 years ago God directed us to start
this wonderful Church in Detroit.
– Was here when she, Courage Church, was born
– Have been involved in its growth & maturity
– Love & adore the people of Courage Church
– Now… it’s time to let her continue without us
– So much history with our Courage Family
– Saying goodbye to the hardcore, super cool, come-back city
– two of our children were born here
– our gorgeous old historic home must now be sold
– we raised our oldest girls in this city
– those two girls will not be making to move with us
– personally growing in a zillion ways & making huge memories
– there is nothing quite like this amazing church & city

And just like that… My eyes are spilling all over the place!

But at the same time a happy, bubbling dances inside my heart.
God has asked us to be a part of something new…

– Falling in love with another church family
– Experiencing new areas & ways of ministry
– Knowing God will develop unused parts of my life
– Making new friends to share our lives with
– Becoming part of a new city
– Hunting for a home
– Establishing new patterns
– Making new memories

And… just like that… I’m all gitty and jumpy inside!

I’m not pschyo … it’s supposed to be this way!
If I was ONLY sad, then I’d be hanging on too tightly,
and now allowing God to do His work in my heart.

If I was ONLY happy then I’d be running from something
and not allowing God to do His work in my heart.

See…. These roller coaster emotions prove HEALTH.
They only FEEL whacky…
Maybe that’s because I’m living in a condition of the heart
that is only about a sentence and a half away from tears
at any moment.
But I’m OK with it all.
I know the One who is directing our steps and
He’s the same One who created my heart!
As long as this heart of mine is following diligently
after Him, then sad AND happy will be just fine with me.

Normal, Common, Regular

“How was your day, today?”

“Regular.”

This conversation used to happen between
my daughter and her friend, Satina.
We always got a kick out of her
use of the work, “regular.”
Other people usually say words like,
“fine” or “good.” Her day was usually
just, “regular!” (I love that girl!)

Honesty, that word describes most of my
days, too. As a stay-home-mom I do nearly
the exact same tasks every day/week.
Not much changes. And since my five kids
range from ages 7 to 22
(only four are still at home), I’ve been
doing these daily jobs for 22 years with MANY
more years to come! Many!
The real kicker is that these
jobs are never, ever “completed.” NEVER!

As soon as I clear & scrub the sink,
someone eats again!
(how dare they?)

No sooner do I sweep our gorgeous wooden
floors & the dog saunters through the room &
disperses his hair to every corner.
(What does he have against me?)

Laundry is put away just about the time
someone dumps dinner on their clothing!
(Seriously?)

You know exactly what I’m saying!

Very few areas of my life offer that
wonderful satisfaction of “a job well done”
because nothing is ever DONE!
This reflects the “stay-at-home-mom” life.

Unrelated side note:
Recently when I called myself a stay-home-mom
a lady said to me,
“Oh, you shouldn’t feel bad that you
live with your Mom.”
WHAT? Come on!!
(but this is another topic altogether!
)

Regular. Common. Normal.
That’s my daily life.

All throughout the Old Testament the Bible
refers to the “Holy and the Unholy,”
the “Sacred and the Common.”
My daily life feels like it belongs in
the later of each of these comparisons.
And yet… it does NOT!

Everything my hand finds to do is
for God’s glory.
It’s all for Him.
It feels “regular,” but my feelings lie.
Whatever I do, I do it all for the
glory of God!
This makes the common task HOLY!
(Scripture references are from 1 Cor. 10:31 and
Col. 3:17)

Take heart, my fellow moms!
Chin up, faithful employee
with “menial tasks.”
Our attitude of praise & glory to God
converts our “normal regular stuff”
into holy, God-glorifying
jobs of great importance!

Yes, I’m a “stay-home-mom” but I’m far from common!

Recently Overheard – July 2, 2014

If you’d been at our house lately you would’ve heard this…

“Satan doesn’t work at McDonalds, he works at Burger King!”

While watching USA in the World Cup…
“Goalie Tim Howard deserves an award, or a hug or at least an ice cream cone!”

“If I had a dollar for every time Mom said. ‘Someone kick it’ I’d be rich!”

“Mom passed the test. The test of weirdness.”

“Mom is a kids’ jute box.”

Me, while having a science conversation-
“What do you think of when you hear the word orbit?”
Chase- “Eat. Drink. Chew Orbit!”

Kids 1- “If you had to choose just one store to do all your shopping
for your life what would it be?”
Kid 2- “Sky mall.”

25 Years – The List

25 Keys to a Joyful and Lasting Marriage
(in no particular order)

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One of the keys to our marriage has always been to realize that we’re not experts and that our way may not be best for others. In fact, over the years, we’ve been asked to do “Marriage Retreats” and other types of events and we’ve replied (with a smirk), “One of the secrets to our marriage is not doing marriage retreats!” So, this list is not comprehensive or authoritative. But, rather just a quick, random, spontaneous list from Chilly and me as we sit together in Florida celebrating our FIRST 25 years of marriage… Enjoy!

1. Smile every day — often!
2. Talk (and listen) to God before you talk to each other.
3. Buy good toilet paper and roll it over-the-top.
4. Fight for your ‘sabbath day’ — and make it count.
5. Last one out of bed makes the bed.
6. Say I love you as often as you can! Also, compliment each other. Lots of eye-contact.
7. Don’t discuss important things when you’re overly emotional (angry, sad, depressed, etc).
8. Laugh… A LOT!
9. Don’t compare or compete with each other — revel in uniqueness!
10. Honor one another. Never tease or embarrass the other beyond what’s kind.
11. Live translucent not transparent. Yes, allow others to see inside but not every detail.
12. Live Amenable (even better than accountable).
13. Follow God’s dreams rather than expect Him to follow ours.
14. Make love not war (and everyone just went, “Oooooo!”)
15. Discipline in unity — be on the same team.
16. Be present (alert & responsive) not just around.
17. Take time away from ‘everything’ together and at times, alone.
18. Make sure God remains head of the home & marriage.
19. Don’t make your spouse your only friend — do different things with different people.
20. Live above reproach (opposite sex, computers, free time, interests, etc).
21. In disagreements or decisions, avoid words like: Always and Never.
22. Communicate LOVE the way your spouse needs it not the way you want it.
23. Raise your children as individuals — no two are the same. Enjoy their uniqueness!
24. Seek wisdom from those who have lived it — not just from peers, blogs & books.
25. Don’t think you’re an expert… EVER. Avoid writing lists for the first 25 years!

Hope you’ve enjoyed this little random list. I’m confident that we left out some essential things that may have made you think, “what about this?” — we’re just happy that it’s got you thinking, laughing and reading. We’re SO THANKFUL for our marriage! We’re also thankful for all of you who know us and still love us! Thanks for praying for our marriage and family, for reading our blogs, for sharing in our crazy little world and for living such extraordinary lives. You inspire us and encourage us to FEARLESSLY go for God’s best!

Life, marriage and family are all wonderful ADVENTURES not tedious chores or mindless routines! Your path is planned by God and is filled with unexpected blessings and opportunities. IF you avoid the ordinary, you’ll live the extraordinary! This is our prayer for our lives and YOURS!

Well, it’s back to the beach for us!

CHECK BACK in 25 years for our next list!

More IN Love than EVER,
Chilly and Netta

Soak in The Water

Dishes!
We have LOTS of dishes!
My hands know the kitchen sink all too well.
This weekend I was washing a stack of dishes & grabbed
a pan coated in yucky, dried grossness. (How is it possible
that this icky mess was once tasty food?)

As I filled that pot with water I said to myself,
“Soaking in water does wonders. It chips away the
crusty grossness.”
And then the Holy Spirit cleared His throat.
“Ehh Hem.”

What, Lord?

“If you’d sit more quietly in my presence I could
chip away at the crusty stuff in your life; the
attitudes that are old, dried, itchy & really
bothering you.”

Oh.

Yes… indeed.
The next morning when I was reading The Word I forced
my mind to shush up, to be still, to soak in the Words
I was reading. Then quietly He whispered to my heart,
proving that He sees me better than I see myself;
showing me the yucky junk that has attached itself to
my thoughts; pointing out how those thoughts lead
to patterns that look nothing like Him. Things I
truly had not even realized were there!

Water does do wonders!
Sitting in His presence;
allowing His wonderfulness wash over me:
soften my heart;

letting my tears be a relief instead of
a frustrated outcry;
loving Him because I’m suddenly awe-struck
by His graciousness to me!

Thank you, Jesus, for speaking to me anytime,
anywhere, through any situation…
every situation…
even the kitchen sink!

John 4:14
But those who drink the water I give will
never be thirsty again. It becomes a fresh,
bubbling spring within them, giving them eternal life.”

Ezekiel 36:25
“Then I will sprinkle clean water on you,
and you will be clean. Your filth will be washed away…”

Menu Plan Monday, Feb. 24, 2014

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MONDAY
Lunch – out
Dinner- Roast Beef in slow cooker, Roasted potatoes & carrots

TUESDAY
Lunch- Homemade Biscuits & Lunch Meat, Fruit
Dinner – Pepper Pasta

WEDNESDAY
Lunch – PB & J, fruit salad
Dinner – Homemade Chicken Nuggets, broccoli, Tator Tots

THURSDAY
Lunch – Grilled Apple cheese sandwiches, carrot sticks
Dinner – White Bean & Ham Soup

FRIDAY
Lunch- Cheesy Eggs, Fruit
Dinner – Homemade Whole Wheat Veggie Pizza

SATURDAY
Lunch – Do-Over pizza from last night
Dinner – Homemade Chicken Pot Pie

SUNDAY
Lunch- Spaghetti & Sauce, Steamed Veggies
Dinner- Tomato & Mozzarella salad

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School, Insanity & Salty Tears

I don't REALLY feel like this... but I certainly relate enough to crack up laughing at this!

I don’t REALLY feel like this… but I certainly relate enough to crack up laughing at it!

The last three weeks were filled with 14 days of hard work, tears,
sadness and continually finding words to encourage my kids
and myself.  Then,  7  of those days offered smiles, comfortable
routines and no more tears. And it is all because of schooling.  Here’s the deal…

In 2004 we started homeschooling our children (because we’d just moved to
the heart of Detroit city).  Then, last year we put our youngest 3 kids into
a university prep charter school near our house.  And now… this fall we’ve
gone a completely different route.   Our youngest three are doing online
public school!

Yes!  Free online public school, Connections Academy. It’s taken many of
the things I love about homeschooling and the few things I liked about
traditional public school and mushed it into one!  Here’s a bullet list
of how things have gone for us.

– Day ONE was insane!  We had the computer that the school gave us
(Yes, they provide one per household) and my laptop.  But after we
took the infamous “1st day of school” picture and sat down to begin
my very aged laptop went to computer heaven (or the opposite!!)
Now what?  THREE kids sharing ONE computer for Online school?
Yeah… NO!!!  Insanity. Tears.

– My kind and compassionate husband took pity on me and put out a
plea on Facebook for used computers.  That very same evening our
precious friends from church were dropping off not one, but TWO
brand new laptops!  Thanks to our friend’s work and an unexpected
money gift we’d been given the month earlier, we now have enough
computers for all three children!  Praise Jesus!

– That thrill worn off quickly… All I’ve used for over 16 years is MAC
computers and now I had 3 PCs!   Everything is the COMPLETE
opposite!  HELP!  More school, insanity and salty tears. But I knew
I’d get it eventually… plus my kids were teaching me how to use it.

– We were told that it would take a while to “get used to computer school”
Yes… no joke.  The first two weeks it took between 9 and 11 HOURS each
DAY to complete the assigned work!  WHAT?

– Of course there were tears!  (Mostly MY tears, quietly shed in a private
corner during the day, and in my time with Jesus in the stillness of the
very early morning.)

–  After a week of this I made several email and phone-call pleas to the
teachers.  “HELP!  What are we doing wrong?”

– The teachers were so, so kind and gave us every bit of encouragement
and ideas they could.  But the daily hours continued to mount!

– We stuck to it, knowing that this WOULD be GREAT when it settled down.

– And then it happened….  We started getting the hang of it!

–  The 3rd week has actually been fun!  All the joys of having my kids home,
being involved in their learning, knowing what they’re studying and
connecting  it to daily activities, news reports, outdoor exploration, etc
all clicked in… again… finally!

– I truly love having my kids at home, learning!  We have a blast.

– Later on I’ll post more about a regular school day as an
“Online Schooling Family”  and the field trip coming up soon.

 

GRATEFULNESS fills my heart.  Of course more challenges hide around
the corners… that’s life… but we’ve walked through a rough beginning
and know that “we can do this!”

 

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