Hidden Agendas

Ick. Hidden agendas just make me wanna barf. And so many times
people will ask one thing but really be “fishing” for something
else… and think that no one notices. Again… ICK!

But that’s not what I’m referring to in this blog.
The Apostle Paul told the church in Corinth that
sincere love speaks for itself.

“We prove ourselves by our purity, our understanding,
our patience, our kindness,
by the Holy Spirit within us, and by our sincere love.”
2 Corinthians 6:6

In this text the word for “sincere” means
not fake, free from hidden agendas.

“Well, that’s me for sure,” we all say smugly to ourselves.
But, maaaaaaaybe not!

What about the times we’ve gone out of our way for our
neighbor and they politely said, “Thanks,” and shut the door?
(I guess we were expecting a little more, right?)

Or when we sacrificed some serious sleep to bless our family
and they not only didn’t say thank you, but they actually
complained about our kindness?
(Certainly we could have expected a smidgen of praise
or at least a tiny bit of affirmation for our undying sacrifice!)

Or the time we so freely gave up our Saturday afternoon
to help out a stressed friend, but she seemed just as
uptight when we left as when we arrived.
(Surely our most blessed gift of time should’ve brought
about a peaceful gratitude!)

See what I mean?
Proudly we can declare that we give love without expecting
anything in return, but if we’re honest with ourselves
we have to admit that we have expectations…
hidden agendas.

Doing things to merely get my expected response (and warm fuzzy affirmations)
is like posting a selfie… only for SELF!
I must answer to God for MY love…
So, I’m learning to regularly ask myself, “Do I love without hidden agendas?”
Do you?

2 thoughts on “Hidden Agendas

  1. Great thoughts, Netta!

    I have been looking after our neighbor’s son this summer, usually one day a week but sometimes more. There have been days when I found myself really wanting a “thank you” –but the Spirit led me through a conversation similar to this one. Humbling, but true!

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