I’m Title-less

“Co-Pastor”

“Woman’s Ministries Director”

“Director of Development,” etc…

Many Pastor’s Wives have titles… it’s kinda the thing to do.

This is not a post to judge them.  (Please make note of that!)

 

I don’t have another title. People know me as “Netta,”  “Pastor’s Wife,”  or even “Mrs. Chilly” All of these are totally fine with me.  (Actually, this past weekend I was even called, “Nana” by a 60-something year old man who tells me I’m like a Mom to him. Admittedly though, if he starts calling me “Grandma” I may have to draw the line!)

Being title-less provides some great benefits:

1. Forces me to find my identity in what Jesus calls me & how He view me.

2. Reminds me that my first calling as God’s daughter is to love & minister to my husband.

3. Offers freedom to minister to all types, ages and groups of people without the strange stereo typing that can happen. (For example, when i was “youth pastor’s wife” the woman of our church were less accepting of something I may have been able to do for them because they just viewed me as the “Youth Lady.” See what I mean?)

4.  Removes that temptation for me to become overly focused on one area of giftings & neglect the growth of other areas in my life.

5. Keeps me on my knees because my “job” is so diverse that I don’t have time to “get into a groove” and forget that my strength & effectiveness comes from JESUS ONLY!

6. Helps me remember that it’s not my position that will leave an eternal effect on others, but rather my life & character.

 

Those of us who love Jesus are all called to encourage & disciple others… period.

Titles don’t do that. Love does.

 

 

 

17 thoughts on “I’m Title-less

  1. I LOVE THIS!!!!!

    a few years ago, I ended up with ‘no ministry’ what I was called to (Youth Ministry), God asked (told) me to step down from my current position. We wrestled A LOT with that one, but He won 🙂 He said ‘only listen to what I want you to do’. WHAT? I’m good in charge of stuff. He told me He couldn’t work on me while I was distracted.

    This was so not easy for me, however, it’s been the best! I realize that sometimes people don’t think of me to do stuff because I’m not in their face all the time, but it means that someone else gets the blessing of serving 🙂 It also means that I rely that God puts me on people’s hearts to serve. It also means that what I do is directed by God.

    God has worked so much in my heart during this time, He has made me completely dependent on Him, makes it way more apparent in my life where the blessings come from (they always came from God, however I can almost see them drop from Heaven now), and actually (this sounds weird) much easier to accept a compliment because I know that people are seeing the Jesus in me!

    Great Post! Sorry my comment was so long!

  2. Yes! Your ministry IS effective because of God’s LOVE workin in u & thru u. YOU ARE one amazing woman, wife, mother, minister, daughter, sister, mentor, sista, first-lady & friend. But, because of your humility ~ YOU ROCK! YOU my friend preach a good sermon EVERY day….’The life YOU live b4 men.’ 😉 Luv ya.

  3. This is good!

    “5. Keeps me on my knees because my “job” is so diverse that I don’t have time to “get into a groove” and forget that my strength & effectiveness comes from JESUS ONLY!”

    This is really going to keep me thinking and working not to get into a groove. I want to rely on Jesus! Thanks Netta!

  4. “2. Reminds me that my first calling as God’s daughter is to love & minister to my husband.”

    “6. Helps me remember that it’s not my position that will leave an eternal effect on others, but rather my life & character.”!!!!!!!!!!!

    These are so good! When we talk about people who have spent their lives serving God and others, we talk about them, not their titles! This is such a challenge to continue to examine my character (not my ministry ability checklist) and find my worth as a daughter of God!

  5. “Offers freedom to minister to all types, ages and groups of people without the strange stereo typing that can happen.”

    “Removes that temptation for me to become overly focused on one area of giftings & neglect the growth of other areas in my life.”

    Thank you for this great post, Netta! I can become encased in a title and close myself off from who God really wants me to minister to: EVERYONE! He doesn’t put people in designated boxes for certain people to get to; God wants me to love the people in front of me NOW! Staying restricted to a title can restrict God’s power working in and through my life. I want people to know Jesus is the answer in EVERY area of their lives!

  6. I think I figured out your problem. You’re just so awesome there isn’t a title that would do you justice. 😉

    To be less of a brown noser, point 4 was awesome. Too often I will let a title tell me my limitations instead of letting God tell me. I think that the task before me doesn’t fall under my title so I’m not the one who is supposed to do it. That’s dumb. If I notice something that needs to be done then maybe I’m the one who God has chosen to do it.

    Thanks for the post Netta.

  7. Thank you so much for sharing this, Netta! I’m really challenged by what you said here,
    “Keeps me on my knees because my “job” is so diverse that I don’t have time to “get into a groove” and forget that my strength & effectiveness comes from JESUS ONLY!”

    It’s so good! I don’t want to get into a groove and become comfortable just in one area. I was created with an ability to be effective in more than one ministry/age group/etc. I need to be looking to JESUS to find security in who I am, not a title or what I do!
    Love you! And I am so grateful for your openness, vulnerability, and truth!

  8. 1. Forces me to find my identity in what Jesus calls me & how He view me.

    I think that is the biggest one for me. It’s so easy to begin identifying yourself by or with your title and then find your value or your worth in it. My value or worth can’t come from what I do, but who I am.

    Thanks for the reminder!

  9. And for those of you that think ‘titles’ are what you need… wait ’til you have a few!

    “people don’t follow titles, they follow courage”

    Sincerely,
    Netta’s husband 😉

  10. This is awesome.

    1. Forces me to find my identity in what Jesus calls me & how He view me.

    4. Removes that temptation for me to become overly focused on one area of giftings & neglect the growth of other areas in my life.

    I don’t want to be summed up by a self-made title, assumption or an excuse, instead of allowing Jesus to teach and mold me in every way.

    Thank you, Netta!!

  11. I like to call you “Mom”… is that a title (;

    “3. Offers freedom to minister to all types, ages and groups of people without the strange stereo typing that can happen”
    I never want to limit what God can do with/through me with titles. I’m cool with being “title-less” (:
    Thanks for this awesome, encouraging, and challenging post. Love you!

  12. 4. Removes that temptation for me to become overly focused on one area of giftings & neglect the growth of other areas in my life.
    So true! When we limit ourselves to a certain area of expertise, we limit God. This is one of the things that I have loved about Xmin from the start and it is so encouraging to see that we don’t have to nor should we ever grow out of it. I always want to be available to be used by God in whatever area He has for me NOW.
    Thanks Netta!!

  13. I love what you said in #6
    “Helps me remember that it’s not my position that will leave an eternal effect on others, but rather my life and character.”
    We all tend to work really hard to get a title and then think that we can use it to get our way in things or think that others will follow or remember us for them. But like Pastor Chilly’s Braveheart quote, “people don’t follow titles…” People are tired of titles, they are more impressed when we care less about what others think and focus on how Jesus calls us to live.

  14. “Keeps me on my knees because my “job” is so diverse that I don’t have time to “get into a groove” and forget that my strength & effectiveness comes from JESUS ONLY!”

    Yes, I love this and Netta thank you so much! I never want to become a pro at my “job”, but always letting Jesus use me however he wants because that is really the only way I can be effective.

    I love you!

  15. And yet again I have no words but God sure is making sure I know he is there and waiting for me…..thank you Netta! * hugs*

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