So Busy, Again…

A couple of days ago I posted about my frustration with the sentence, “I’m so busy!”

Before I say more I have to clarify the previous post… I’m not against having a full schedule and living life to the fullest. My frustration is with people who TALK about it ALL THE TIME and/or over-commit to things they should say, “no” to. But, let’s assume that you’re NOT one those people…

Let’s supposed that all of us reading this right now have lives  full of useful things that we’re supposed to be doing. If this is actually true, then we’re probably pretty good at knowing our priorities and living by them…. and saying,”YES” when needed and “NO” when necessary.

Although all the magazines & organizing blogs make it sound like “saying no” is a piece of cake, it of course, is NOT!  Saying no involves people… and we like people. So what can you say or do to make the “no” easier? We don’t always mean “No way, Never!” Sometimes it just has to be later, or in a different way.

Here’s a few ideas that will still help you communicate to the person that you care about them but simply cannot say yes at the time and/or way they’ve requested.  And, after reading these ideas PLEASE list your own!

– “Let me take a look at next month and let’s get it on the calendar.”

– When asked to be involved in something big: “All of your ideas are wonderful. Although I’m unable to oversee the bake sale, I’d love to bake cookies and get one of my friends to donate treats, too.” This communicates your interest in their event but sets the limits of your involvement.

– “Yes, getting our kids together sounds fun. We’re planning to be at the park on Friday. Wanna join us then?” (this doesn’t add anything else to your calendar, but does add fun & time with friends)

– “Ooh, what an interesting  idea. Although I’m probably not the right fit for it at this point,  may I have your website so I can pass on to a couple of my friends who may be interested.” (Don’t say this unless you mean it!)

– “This week doesn’t have much wiggle room, but we could plan something for the week of the 17th?”

-“The invitations are just adorable. I bet the rest of the party will be, too. But sadly, I won’t be able to attend. Would it be OK if I drop off a gift the day before the party?”

 

Notice the absence of  the words busy, crazy, can’t, etc. But it does point out the positive points of the one doing the asking and does not imply that your life is more important than their life.

What are your thoughts & ideas about saying, “NO?”

 

7 thoughts on “So Busy, Again…

  1. I’m terrible at saying no, but I learned this little handy dandy advice, since I love to serve and if I am getting a nudge that it may or may NOT be something I can do or within my realm of gifts, I tell someone I have to pray about it, then sometimes it’s a yes, and sometimes it is a no, but it takes the pressure off me. who is going to argue with God? 🙂

  2. these are all great! I really try to combine activities too, so if i’m already going somewhere I’ll ask someone to come along and then maybe add in a quick coffee stop. Or, if i need to help out with something I’ll try to make one trip even if something has to get delivered early. I try to look at my week and early in the week i’ll make calls to people I need/want to hang out with and see if they are available in my time frame. The longer I wait to plan, the crazier it gets and that’s when I find myself running all over.
    Also, I have to be realistic about how long it takes me to do things now that there is a little guy with me!!! I remember the days of running running running, but doesn’t really work anymore 🙂

    Love you!!

  3. Those are some great ideas of things to say/do. I’ve always loved the way you word things. I feel like I need to write these down & carry them around with me. Lol. I can’t think of others to add tho. Thanks!

  4. These are GREAT! I especially love the one that uses “wiggle room” hehe… except my 17th is booked 😉

    I don’t really have anything to add. But, I would like to say that combining tasks is SWEET!

    Ruth has taken your cue on this with me and Erin G has with Kari. We like to grocery shop, cook etc. with our sisters! And having their kids around is DElightful!

    love & hugs & prayers

  5. These are great! I definetly have a hard time saying no. In my heart I wanna say yes all the time. But it’s not always the best thing. Sometimes saying yes to a new commitment means I have to skimp on something I’ve already committed to that is more important. These are wonderful ways to make people not feel devalued. Which is the very reason I never want to say no.
    Netta you’re so wise!! 🙂

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