That Word – Humility

When you think of words that make your tummy turn a
little flip and your heart utter a little prayer of
forgiveness, one of those words would most certainly
be HUMILITY. Am I right?

This difficult quality will not grow in us as long
as we are thinking about ourselves.
“How do I look?”
“Did I do that right? Are they noticing?”
“How will this affect me?”
“Why are they doing that? That’s not even right!”
“They’re so insensitive!”

Insecurity kills humility.
Cuz thinking about ourselves all the time
is pride… the enemy of humility.

A purposeful effort must be made to
NOT be full of self-thoughts.

Make an effort to…
– be gentle (deciding to be kind)
– be patient (cuz impatience is selfishness!)
– work without a title
– not depend on others’ affirmation
– choose the “invisible” jobs
– recognize others when you’re craving recognition
– be alone without being lonely (quote from our mentor Jeannie)
– stop rating other people
– remember Who you serve & why

Humility is the inside-out virtue that’s produced
by comparing ourselves to the Lord rather than to others.

“Always be humble and gentle.
Be patient with each other,
making allowance for each other’s faults
because of your love.”

Ephesians 4:2

He’s not expecting that

I’m surrounded by some very smart, super talented, incredibly motivated people; I’m even married to one of them. There are moments when look around me… and… Holy Moly… (Where did that phrase come from, anyway?) I start thinking very true things like this: He’s so talented at this. She does this with excellence. He knows just how to handle this & that. She’s so good at that it almost looks easy.

It would be easy to fall into the comparison game: “I’m not as good at this or that.”

Well, of course I’m not as good … I’m not them. They hold different talents in their lives, different giftings that I’m not responsible for using because I don’t have them. My abilities lie in other areas.   You already know this. So do I. But let’s be honest… sometimes we compare and that only leads to one of two things: feeling icky about ourselves or feeling a slightly snotty sense of pride (also icky!).

This morning as I was reading in Matthew 26 I got a little verbal spanking about comparisons. The Master (God) in the story gives talents (abilities & resources) to each of His servants (that’s us!) & expects them to put them to be used to the best of their ability. That’s ALL I’m responsible for doing. He’s not expecting me to accomplish something with someone else’s gifts, just mine. If I get too busy noticing how someone else is “better than me” then I’ll slack off from accomplishing what I’m purposed to do.

Note: This does not mean that we stop appreciating other people & their giftings! But rather, this allows us to truly admire others and have the freedom to verbalize that & encourage them. If we’re tied up in the comparison ropes we’re unable to be thankful for them and “icky-ness” finds a home in our thoughts & heart.

Who’s expectations are you living up to? What standards dictate your attitudes & actions?  God is not expecting me to be anyone but me, but He does insist that I put my abilities to use for Him! (And He’ll give me the ideas & strength to accomplish that!)

Now that’s a relief. 🙂

 

 

Recently overheard 3

My friend, Freddie, has mentioned several times that she thinks it would be hilarious to be a fly on my wall. Ha!

The conversations inside our home & car this week have dished out a plethora of humorous comments. When I was done laughing, I started writing them down… enjoy.

 

“This is the most embarrassing day of my life.” / “That’s my job- embarrassing my kid when they’re preteens.” /” Well, you’re doing a great job!”

 

“Stop singing, Dude.”

 

“I’m pretty sure Batman & Robin are Christians.”

 

“I get to choose what we play cuz I’M the BIRTHDAY boy!”/ “NO. I get to choose what we play cuz I’m the GUEST!”

 

“All this coloring is making me really tired.”

 

“That’s so weird… Some people are really weird.” (says the girl wearing this mask)

 

“I’m pretty sure that my sister doesn’t have any jewels in her crown!”

 

“Oh, you’re writing a story? Here’s a story for ya. ‘Once upon a time my sister was a mean bean. The end.’ There!”

 

“Mom, when we have kids you’re gunna be the most boring Grandma of all time because you never spend your money on candy!”

 

“MOM! There’s a man walking around outside our window! (and their window is on the 3rd floor… but they were right!)

 

 

Said Too Much?

Did I say more than I should’ve?

No.

Did I say more than I wanted to?

Yes.

You see, last week I posted something on my Twitter that is more

than I ever say about a specific topic… TMJ

and it’s caused me pain for over 15 years.

Lots of people have this. It’s not embarrassing.

It’s just that I don’t talk about it much.

Complaining bothers me.

And I don’t want to be a complainer!

But last week God’s Word kept pointing at something inside of me

it sickened me… and God continued to bring up… pride.

ick

Pride has various forms.

My problem?  Somehow taking pride in not letting people

know that I’m in pain… being tough enough to tough it out.

There’s nothing wrong with “not blabbing” about your situations…

that’s probably wise. But finding satisfaction or a form of

accomplishment in NOT telling it cuz it makes ya feel tough

well, we can see where that got me… confession.

First, repenting of pride & asking  Jesus to forgive me.

Secondly, tweeting about it… and now having to add a little more info

so that my pride is dashed.

If this is completely confusing to you.. that’s OK.

Just know that NO one is tough ALL the TIME!

That everyone needs prayer!

And pride creeps into the strangest areas… so beware…

and be quick to repent & make it right.

There. I’ve said it.

Don’t expect me to complain about it… but it’s no longer a secret, either.

Jesus is totally able to heal me in a second… but He also can use this

weird jaw problem to form my character.

And I’m OK with that, too!

I love JESUS!