If you asked someone to define love they’d probably mention the word trust somewhere in there. But that’s not actually true.
(But before I go on I must say that I’m NOT talking about the kind of love that would lead to marriage! Single People, Don’t even look twice at someone if they’re not trustworthy! And dating should never be a consideration if they aren’t honest!)
One evening not too long ago, as I was praying (and crying) to God about the many people over the years that I’ve made myself vulnerable to, loved freely and then been hurt by, I said, “Lord, I don’t know if I can keep on trusting people.” He gently replied, “You don’t have to trust to love.”
Loving someone we don’t trust sounds ridiculous! Stupid, in fact. But it’s true. Jesus told us that the greatest kind of love is the one that gives up his/her life for someone else. (John 15:13) That’s what Jesus did for us… we are certainly not trustworthy… especially when compared to God’s trust-ability!
Giving & living LOVE means we open up ourselves so we can speak encouragement to others, find the good in them, believe the best in them, cheer for them, pray for them, rejoice with them, be ourselves around them, laugh, hug, etc…. Easy enough if the people are trustworthy. Not so easy if they’ve hurt you, taken advantage of you, stabbed you in the back, talked behind your back, took their knowledge of you and made themselves gain something while you lose it. NOT EASY!
So, what was my response that evening during prayer when God assured me that I don’t have to trust to love? Well, honestly, a couple of embarrassing whimper noises and few more tears. Then a huge sigh of relief and joy!
Giving love = joy!